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What is a Seed?

“Inside each of us, there is the seed of both good and evil. It’s a constant struggle as to which one will win. And one cannot exist without the other.”

Eric Burdon

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What is a Seed?

“Inside each of us, there is the seed of both good and evil. It’s a constant struggle as to which one will win. And one cannot exist without the other.”

Eric Burdon

What is a seed?
“A seed is an embryonic plant enclosed in a protective outer covering called the seed coat.” That is the description I discovered when I “googled” the question above. It could also be a metaphor for what we are. An embryonic Soul covered in skin.

Seeds are so tiny and humble yet can grow into something beautiful and grand or sometimes monstrous and overpowering. The Willow tree was once a seed as was the Corpse flower (deemed the ugliest plant of all time lol). Martin Luther King was a seed and so was Hitler.

There are many metaphors using “seeds”. Seeds of memory, seeds of hope, sowing the seeds, seeds of doubt and the list could go on. Thoughts are the “seeds” that give rise to actions, habits and character. Our life is shaped by our mind.

Throughout life we are performing a dance between seed and full-grown plant with each decision we make. Our choices allow our seeds to become life-giving or destruction. We tend to become what we think but did you know that the heart has intelligence? We are all seeds in the same garden connected to the same soil.

This blog will be about all kinds of allegorical seeds. I hope you will enjoy and welcome…
What seeds will you plant today?

©2014 In The Garden – Blog

The Art of Letting Go

This is an article I wrote some time ago. It was during a time of difficulty that I have long since moved on from but thought I would share it to help anyone who may be in the midst of experiencing something similar. This is to let you know there IS beauty on the other side and simply put… Life IS beautiful.


Artwork: Banksy

As I wake up feeling refreshed, on this beautiful morning to birds singing, there is an odd yet familiar notion of being haunted. “Ah yes,” the ghost of a strenuous past begins to seep in. Why is it so difficult to let go of the things we love that are not serving us well, or even at all?

Without getting into too much detail, I have been dealing with something that was probably one of the most profound experiences that ever happened in my life thus far, yet it turned into something that was causing much grief and heartache. Yes, it has to do with love. What else in this world can drive us so crazy? When love was flowing, it was incredible. I saw the world with new eyes. Colours were more vibrant, sounds more vivid, but when it became cold and distant, it was extremely hard to accept. I think what hurt the most was the recognition that it likely was not as real for the other and that I left myself too open and vulnerable. But is there any other way to truly love?

As human beings we have been given the gift of “connection”. We tend to grow and heal easier through leaning on others, and there is definitely something about “strength in numbers”. But when does connection become attachment? I had to figure out how to detach.

In the past, it has always been very easy for me to let relationships, whether it is friendship or love, go. Like turning a light switch on and off. But not this time. Everyday I would say this is the day that it will leave me, but it never did. I was beginning to think I would need to see an exorcist to remove this entity that was still plaguing me! Then it came to me, no, this one you cannot just switch off, you are going to have to accept that it is, yet is not, and live with that. You will carry this with you, but what you choose to do with it depends on you.

While temporarily removing some distractions for alone time, I made a conscious decision to let this love, one of the strongest connections I had experienced, go. Although it lingers, there is no heartache with it anymore. It is a reminder that magical things do exist, if only for a moment. Now I could embrace love in all its true beauty. Love is freedom. It is boundless. This experience has become a blessing and a marker of what to look forward to. I didn’t have to switch it off like it never existed, but I was able to live with it and let it go by going through these steps:

Acceptance

This is the most important step in the art of letting go. You have to, no, you must accept that what was, is no more there. Whatever lesson it is to teach you, it has been shared.  Now, it is time to move on. Without true acceptance, you will remain stuck. This is the hardest, yet the most freeing idea.

Be thankful it happened

Many people go through life never experiencing a love this profound and you were fortunate enough the Universe exposed you to such beauty. If the Universe exposed it to you in the first place, then it is possibly preparing you for something even greater.

Let it go. Release it

Keep the lessons learned from this experience, they came to you in service to help you grow and become stronger for when this comes around again, you are more prepared to handle it and navigate more fluidly through it.

Open up to new beginnings

Get out more often and create new adventures. When we tend to hold on to the past, we shut the door to anything new that may be on the horizon. If you’re not ready for that then at least keep a window open. As Rumi once said, “Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form”

Change is the one thing that is guaranteed and we have been blessed with the ability to choose how we experience it. We can choose to view change positively or negatively.  The choice of suffering belongs to you. Change will happen regardless.

By making the choice to live in the eternal moment of NOW and to let go of the past, change becomes your friend. You will be aware of the beauty that is unfolding right in this moment and it is a wondrous place to be. Give up the ghost, and let the past haunt – well – the past.

©2015 In The Garden Blog

5 Things Successful Women do Differently 

Success, we all want it! Some have achieved it, most strive for it and becoming successful is no easy feat! Possibly harder for us ladies. So what are the main steps in the process that triumphant women take to achieve? After much research, these are the key elements all successful women have in common.


In a “man’s” world, many dynamic women continue to blaze a trail through hard work and determination to secure their spot at the top. While the “good ole boys club” does still exist, it is not impenetrable. More and more women are forming their own clubs by creating workshops or meet up groups to help encourage one another. A woman’s path to success may be more strenuous but not impossible. Plenty have managed to rise to the top while balancing career and family. We are versatile and powerful!

Unfortunately, in some cases there are men and women who once they become a success, make it difficult for other women to climb, possibly due to fear of competition, among other things. One of my successful friends shared with me that it was another woman who made her rise to the top arduous. Although successful women have encountered similar circumstances, they pushed forward and broke down all doors realizing there is room for more. Cooperation brings us much further ahead than competition. It is overcoming these hurdles that makes reaching your goal that much sweeter. Many successful women had barriers placed before them but they did not let that deter them.

Success, we all want it! Some have achieved it, most strive for it and becoming successful is no easy feat, possibly harder for us ladies. So what are the main steps in the process that triumphant women take to achieve? After much research, these are the key elements all successful women have in common.

Taking Risks


Every successful woman I’ve researched has taken risks. Whether it was quitting their 9 – 5 to create their own business or putting all of their money and time into their dream while ignoring others advising them against it.
 Some have quit their established position at a very successful company to follow their life’s passion and daily take strides to victory. For others it was less time with their families or having to take a 2nd mortgage. 
They made tough decisions and sacrificed to achieve their goals.

 

Passion

Successful women are extremely passionate about their vision. It was their passion that gave them the necessary drive to put forth hard work and determination to make their dreams a reality. When we find what it is we love to do, it really does not feel like “work”.

 

Failure

These women accepted there would be times when situations seemed to go wrong and success appeared unachievable. That is the moment many give up. But victorious women did not let those difficulties stop them, they pressed on. They did not view them as failures, just obstacles to overcome. Tough situations make you stronger and wiser. As Oprah Winfrey once said “There are no failures.”

 

Belief

All successful women truly believed in their ability to succeed right from the start. Their belief was so strong that it became a knowing. They knew they would make it and stuck to their vision!  Having unwavering confidence in themselves gave them the courage to face any and all barriers presented.

Appreciation

All along the road they were truly appreciative of the entire journey. Through hardship and triumph they understood that to reach their goal, every step was necessary.
To show their gratitude, many successful women reached back to help their sisters along the way.

While success is measured differently by each one of us formidable women, the basic steps are the same. There will be many hurdles on the road to success but always be thankful and do not forget the lessons learned so you can shine your light for your sisters coming up the path. Empower each other and continue to blaze your trail ladies, never ever give up and I will meet you at the top! 

©2015 In The Garden

Who Is Your “Lucy”?

A lot of us have a “Lucy” in our lives. That person who always gets a kick out of building us up with false hope only to pull the rug out from under us…so who is your Lucy?


Those of us who are familiar with the good ol’ days of the Peanuts gang, all know too well who Lucy Van Pelt is. She is the sister of Linus, crushed on Schroeder (as she would have us believe) and tormentor of poor Charlie Brown (whom I suspect was her real crush why she tormented him so). Lucy Van Pelt was the member of the gang whom we loved to hate.

I’m sure none of us can forget the way she would always convince Charlie that she would hold the football steady and not pull it away. If Charlie did not believe her she would cry, threaten, stomp in anger, basically do whatever she had to in order to convince Charlie to believe her. Although Charlie’s gut would tell him not to trust her, he would give in either because her manipulating antics would make him feel guilty for not believing her or there was some tiny shred of hope that she really would hold the football still this. Sadly, we all know how that ended every time.

Poor Charlie would run with a smile, hoping this time she would keep her word and of course, at the very last second as he would kick, Lucy would remove the football and Charlie would land on his back with Lucy standing above him, her finger pointed while laughing and calling him a clod. He fell for it again!


A lot of us have a “Lucy” in our lives. That person who always gets a kick out of building us up with false hope only to pull the rug out from under us. It could be a family member, friend, co-worker or a love interest. It is up to us “Charlies” to wake up and stop chasing the proverbial football.

At some point no matter how much we love someone we have to walk away from those who harm us whether it is intentional or not. If you can’t love and protect yourself, who else will?

As much as we may love our “Lucy” for the few positive traits they may have, they are not worth the heartache later. Trust me! Let them go!

©2015 In The Garden

 

Finding Your Purpose


What is your life’s purpose? Do you know? The very definition of purpose is; the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. What were you created to do?
Many of us go through life without a definite answer to those questions. Some do not care and are happy with their life the way it is, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But there are some of us who, while sitting at our job or at school, in front of our computer, know that there is so much more to life and our purpose for being here. Like Thomas Anderson sitting at his desk staring into nothing only to be snapped awake by a phone call from Morpheus in The Matrix.

While working toward building our careers, which in many cases we were pushed to choose in high school in a career planning class or were nudged in a direction by parents with the best intentions, we trudged along working toward these goals to ensure a paycheck to pay the bills. But a few of us have been lucky enough, perhaps later in life, to receive that internal phone call that illuminates us with thought provoking conversations within . How did I get stuck here? This is not what I am supposed to be doing with my life. We begin to remember what it was we enjoyed our entire lives. That thing that brought us joy. That thing at the very center of your being that knows its purpose.
It is something we have known all along but were discouraged by being told we would not make a decent living or some other mental roadblock. My life’s intent has always been writing. I learned to read very young and began to write stories and poems. Throughout many career changes my one constant has been to write. Whether it was poems, songs, journaling or stories, that was where I found my peace and joy. Lately many people are discovering their true purpose and beginning to follow their heart instead of their head. What ignited them to discover and follow their purpose?
Through speaking with others who are following their calling, I have learned they were incredibly unhappy in their jobs. Not because of a lack of success but a lack of a reason for what they were doing. They realised they were only there to to help build someone else’s dream and not their own. They felt hollow and were becoming mindless drones in a 4 x 6 “cell”. “I am not supposed to be here, doing this!” It is at this point the questions start and once that light bulb turns on, that is the beginning of a new beginning with no looking back, not the end as many would have us believe. Here are some steps to help you find the your life’s purpose…

 

Stop and Listen

Life has a way of becoming so busy that we do not schedule time to be alone. Take time for yourself and just listen to your inner voice. Be still so that you can hear.

 
Write Down Your Core Interests

Think back to when you were a child. What was it that you loved to do? Maybe you enjoyed building things, pretending to be an officer, singing songs, helping or making people laugh to name a few. I am most certain that reflecting on the joyful memories of your childhood is where you will uncover your life’s intention.

 

Follow Your Instincts

Learn to trust your intuition. That gut feeling is a gift from the Universe. Pay attention. It will not steer your wrong.

 
Get Out There and Make It Happen

Once you find your purpose, do something everyday to help fulfil it and become successful. Find companies or people looking for your purpose. Put yourself out there. Many naysayers and unbelievers will try to dishearten your efforts but as long as you know your talents, they won’t matter. Remind them of this Chinese Proverb, “The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it”

 
While your purpose is yours alone you will find that when you are in that vibration of your joy it tends to reverberate and flow to others. We are all creators and have each been given certain talents to create a happy life for each other here. Once you find it, share it.

©2015 In The Garden